1. HE USES GUILT AS A WEAPON. Do you ever feel like your guy tries to guilt you into doing the things he wants you to do? Master manipulators often use guilt as a weapon. WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT: If your guy is doing this to you, call him out on it and refuse to do whatever it is he wants you to do. We all do things in a relationship from time to time that we don't want to do, but it's unfair and manipulative to use guilt as a weapon to force your partner to do something for you.
2. HE USES BACKHANDED COMPLIMENTS. Does your guy ever say things like "no one will ever love you as much as I do?" or "no one will ever care about you like I do?" If you've heard your guy say these words, he's not really paying you a compliment. These types of "compliments" are really subtle messages that he uses to try to make you believe that he's the only guy who will ever love you. WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT: Next time he says it, let him know that there are plenty of guys out there who would love you. He's not the only one. This will let him know that you're not going to be fooled by his backhanded tactics.
3. HE DECIDES...EVERYTHING. Does it seem like your guy makes all of the decisions in your relationship? Think back to the last five decisions you've been faced with as a couple. How many times did you do what he wanted? This is a subtle form of manipulation that should not be tolerated. WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT: You may not even really be aware of it. You're probably just used to it by now. You may just do it to keep the peace. Whatever the reason, it's time for you to recognize that what you want isn't being taken into consideration in your relationship. That's unfair. Next time you feel like giving in to what he wants, stop and insist that you guys do what you want.
4. HE USES HALF-TRUTHS. Does your guy tend to tell you only a part of the story, especially when he's caught doing something questionable? Do you always find out later that there was much more to the story that what he was telling you? Your guy is using half-truths to get you to do what he wants and that's a common, but subtle manipulation technique. WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT: The next time you feel like he's using his half-truths to manipulate you, call him on it. Let him know that you're well aware of what he's trying to do and put your foot down - don't do what he wants you to do. Instead, go with your gut and do what feels right to you.